Let’s face it, dating these days is like navigating through the jungle in a torrential downpour without a map and night is falling. It sucks! From the buffet of options for causal flings offered by dating apps, to the ability to see the guy you just went out with suddenly post a picture with a new girlfriend on social media, to having an entire convo on snap chat that disappears and forgetting what you said, technology has made finding a soul mate much harder on us than it was for our parents. But the worst part of dating these days is the casually cruel way our romantic partners simply vanish from our lives and that is unfortunately a tale as old as time. So whether you’ve been ghosted by your boyfriend or girlfriend of a year (yes, this actually happens), the person you were casually seeing for a few weeks or some loser that led you on for two months, introduced you to his family and then seemingly fell off the face of the earth, there are some healthy ways to deal with this hard time and come out the other end better than ever.
Blocking this immature person who isn’t even capable of having a conversation like an adult on all forms of communication will help you to feel empowered. You won’t be sitting around wondering if they are ever going to text, or stalking their social media for a hint of what went wrong. Unless this person has a completely valid excuse (i.e. major emergency surgery) any text from them will be a day late and a dollar short. You’ve moved on with your life. They had their chance and they blew it!
2. Write a text to them and then delete it.
Pour your heart out in a text. Say everything you want to say to them. Leave no stone un-turned and no cuss word unsaid. This is your time to vent. You can even text it to yourself and act as though you texted them and then even reply to yourself with the apology you deserve to hear. After that, delete the text and the message thread. This will help you accept what has happened and the fact that this person is not of sound mind or sound character and you will find healing in letting it go.
3. Do something kind to yourself.
You were not treated with the kindness and respect you deserve and it hurts. But don’t let the pain caused by a low vibration person make you doubt that you are beautiful and worthy of love! Go out there and get a bottle of wine, buy a mud mask, soak in a salt bath. Remember that you are a loved enough and are worthy enough on your own and don’t need another person (especially not a person who is so broken and deficient themselves) to make you happy.
4. Re-frame the story.
Your mind will believe what you tell it so tell it something good. Tell yourself this person did this to you to save you from getting tangled up with a person of deficient character and a lack of maturity. Remind yourself that someone who would date you multiple times and leave you hanging is not someone capable of a sustained, intimate relationship. You dodged a bullet. Say you dodged a bullet to yourself every time you think of them and it will become a habit.
Wish I had this when I was dating. Very helpful advice. I can’t tell you how many times I wrote that text and then sent it! Lol.
I have totally been there myself and learned the hard way. Sending you love!